origens of homosexuality
----- Part 3
We have discussed what we believe to be the tap root of homosexuality, the
lack of unconditional love. This deprivation, along with fear, envy, and
isolation make up what we call the PREDISPOSITIONING PACKAGE which leads to
homosexuality if it is left unchecked. Now we will look at what can be
done to derail this progressing syndrome.
While we try to isolate the root causes (for the sake of convenience), it
must be realized that they are inter-related, each reinforcing the other.
Together, they form a vicious cycle which only a traumatic breakthrough can
The Development Of Fear
Though it may be reasoned that we are born without fear, a child is quick
to learn fear when something unpleasant takes place and he does not want
this to happen again. To a small child, fear is very simplistic and
includes fears of being abandoned, unwanted, or left to go hungry. The
child knows he is unable to meet his own needs and is dependent on older
people to provide for those needs. It is sad to say that today, more than
ever (or so it seems), children have their physical needs met while their
emotional needs are neglected through parental absence, ignorance ,or plain
fatigue on the part of the parents.
Coupled with these fears is the fear of being unprotected. Scripture tells
us that the peace of God stands guard over our hearts and minds
(Philippians 4:7). Just as God stands guard over us, the small child needs
an earthly father who will stand guard over him, protecting him not only
physically, but also in his emotional development as well. Parents seem to
discount just how vulnerable a small child is. Witness a child lost in a
large store and see the panic that takes over when he thinks he is left
unprotected. This is only the visible panic; the emotional panic is
A Fathers Part.
God has seen fit to hold the husband responsible for his household. Many
times, this is a heavy and confusing role for the father. The father may
be totally unaware that his expectations for his child are actually driving
a wedge between them that will destroy their relationship. The father who
only extends love when the child is showing approved behaviour (smiling,
paying attention, not crying) is non-verbally saying, "I do not love you
when you cry, spill things, or act improperly." If the father's
expectations are too high and cannot be met, the child feels that he fails
in all his transactions with his father. He then fears that, because of
his father's displeasure with him, he cannot count on his father's
Fear seems to be something that is ever-expanding. Fear seems to breed
increased fear. As the child's mind develops (with the influence of
today's television and movies), he will begin to fear the unknown. His
specific fears have branched out into non-specific fears, developing a
sense of apprehension, a kind of all-encompassing, free-floating fear.
The child's initial reaction will be to run to others for the approval and
reassurance he needs. If he is fortunate enough to find a surrogate father
who supplies his needs, the predispositioning package will lose its
effectiveness and be stopped. The child that cannot find another person to
fulfil his needs will provide for those needs in his own way. He will
build a fantasy world that is impenetrable to those around him. He will
enter a world of self-isolation.
Development Of Envy.
As the child grows up feeling unaffirmed, inadequate, and unloved, he will
look about him and come to admire those who are secure and confident in
their abilities. He will constantly be comparing himself with others. As
he sees others accomplishing their goals and succeeding in life, he will
begin to envy them. At first, he will wish to be like them. He may make
attempts at copying their behaviour, language, and style of clothing, but
none of this will accomplish his ends. It will never bring a feeling of
security. As he retreats deeper into fantasy, he will want to control
He will see himself as King and in a position of controlling their lives
and forcing them to do his bidding. As time passes, he will want to BE
them. Erotic desire will arise out of his envy. He will have sexual
fantasies where he is linked to them. In these fantasies, he is
indispensable to them. They give him the recognition and sense of
belonging that he longs for. The time may soon come when he acts out his
fantasies within the confines of the gay lifestyle.
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